Although it may seem repetitive and something already widely discussed, I still believe that there is still a lot of failure, not only at the academic level of children, but also at a personal level.
The issue of emotions, I think it is still the key point in all of this, it is no longer about treating and teaching an area, such as Emocrea, which deals with the emotional issue, but it should be that we live at forced marches, to finish the syllabus, because that is what is demanded of us, we must know ourselves deeply, in order to resolve the thousands of conflicts that these little heads contain.
We give a lot of importance to abstract things, forgetting a little about the subcortical structures of the brain, such as memory, emotions, pleasure, which are extremely important in development. I have studied and trained a lot in this aspect, due to needs as a mother, and I see myself capable of looking at my students in an unconditional way, I do not judge them because each one is fighting their battles, although it may seem strange, but today they have very hard experiences in their homes. Of course they have their moments of anger, frustration, rage and I think my task, and no less easy, is to teach them to resolve those behaviors that come from poor management of their emotions, I do not excuse them for something they have done wrong, but I teach them to channel that negative emotion.
Goleman said, "Real achievement depends not so much on talent as on the ability to keep going despite failures," it is not that it is a fad to talk about this, it is a necessity, there are more and more children with treatments for anxiety, I believe that in life we depend more on emotional competencies than on cognitive ones. When they learn to manage their entire emotional field as children, the happier they will be and the more successful they will be in school. It is important to be emotionally intelligent, I believe that the Canary Islands is the only autonomous community that teaches the subject related to this topic, hence we teachers are fortunate to have this privilege of delving into this competence in our students.
When I did my training courses, I learned things as important as that there has to be an emotional connection between parents and children, you have to water that love daily, listen to each other, talk at home, stop the rush, and make that dialogue a necessity, just as if it were about eating. Scolding my children or demotivating them was useless, because they lost confidence in themselves, the power of the word is very great, and you have to be very careful with what we communicate.
Being a team at home, in this way united, everyone cooperates at home and threats and punishments are not necessary. It would be very convenient for the city councils to promote the creation of workshops to train parents and that they can work with their children at home. Learning to speak and listen seems easy but it is not done, that our children tell us everything and we are empathetic with them because if we are not, they will close more and will not have confidence. It is also not convenient to overprotect the child so that he does not feel overwhelmed, this does not help him but on the contrary will leave him without tools for his future, when he encounters difficult situations, managing emotions does not mean minimizing them, repressing them, ignoring them or judging them.
That there is a mediator in the family is of utmost importance, someone who delves into that family conflict, to resolve something that has confronted some member of the family, thus the affective and family ties will be strengthened. We cannot ignore emotions, because we will make wrong decisions, says Albert Alegre, and he is absolutely right. When they ask us how we are, we usually answer, good, bad, down, but we never say properly what is happening to us, that emotional illiteracy makes us fall into depression and lack of self-esteem, however if we name the emotion that overwhelms us, those around us will know how to treat us.
If a child who is angry with his sister, because she did not want to play and also breaks his doll as revenge, we punish him, we will only increase his anger, if on the contrary, we say to him, What do you think if we sit down to have a snack and I give you a hug we talk about what happened? we suddenly break his anger because he does not expect our proposal.
I teach yoga class with my students and teaching them simply to breathe correctly and relax helps them a lot, another way to help them manage their interior.
I want to be a teacher of the soul and be able to see, inside that magnificent ocean called emotions.
