A 21-year-old woman reported this Wednesday in Arrecife a physical assault and robbery by her ex-boyfriend, 33, with whom she had a serious relationship for a year and several of intermittent relationship.
The events occurred at noon this past Wednesday, August 28, inside the young woman's house. According to her testimony, her ex-partner stayed to sleep in the house and they had a strong argument that started because of jealousy. "He knew I was meeting someone, he tried to take my phone and see the messages, but I refused," the woman said in statements to La Voz. "By not letting him access the messages, he struggled and hit me," she pointed out.
The victim has highlighted her indignation with the attitude of the alleged aggressor: "He is nobody to check my phone, now we have nothing sentimental." The practice of checking the mobile phone was common during sporadic encounters and the time they maintained a serious relationship. Thus, she has related that her ex-boyfriend "dedicated himself to deleting the strongest messages I had from him when I fell asleep."
At that moment, the aggression allegedly occurred and there was a struggle between the two. "We started arguing and he became very aggressive, he put my head against the bed, grabbed my neck with both hands and started squeezing, in addition to grabbing my hair," the victim revealed. The young woman has filed a complaint with the National Police, in which she states that she tried to defend herself, while he allegedly pulled her hair. At one point, she started screaming and a family member who was in the house came to help her. "My sister came up to help me, but he left my house and fled," she said.
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Previous aggressions
Although it is the first time she has filed a complaint for the alleged aggressions, the young woman adds that she has already experienced other episodes of violence with her ex-boyfriend. "He assaulted me with pushes and several punches during the relationship," she said. In addition, she recognizes the profile of the alleged abuser as that of a "manipulative" and "victimizing" person.
After the narrated episode and the complaint at the police station, she has shared the situation on social networks and he has denounced her for "defamation" and has responded to her through these digital platforms. "He says I'm a liar and that I'm going to have to prove it in front of a judge," she said, while adding "the liar is him. I don't have to prove anything to anyone, only to a judge."
"He told me he was going to kill me if he saw me on the street with the other one," she says
Among the different episodes of possible psychological abuse, the young woman has related "the threats" she has endured from her ex-partner. "He told me he was going to shit and kill me if he saw me on the street with the other one," she explained.
After years of back and forth in a toxic relationship, she says she can't take the situation anymore. "I've always kept quiet, I had never said anything, but I'm tired," she stressed.
Thus, she has highlighted the need for society to know her story and prevent other women from something like this happening again. "I want people to know what he's really like," thus "preventing him from running loose on the street and continuing to hit more women." According to the victim's words, he has "more complaints for abuse, he even wore a telematic bracelet," she stated.
Now, she is waiting for the Court to respond to the restraining order she has requested. "I will be calmer when I have it," the woman concluded.
Alleged robberies
Always according to her testimony, the complainant has related that she also suffered an alleged theft of money by the aggressor. "I checked my wallet and realized that he had stolen 50 euros" and she added that it is not an isolated event. "It's not the first time I've been missing money at home while he's inside, whenever he comes, I'm missing money," she recalled.
In addition, she has stated how months ago "a gold chain disappeared just when he had stayed to sleep that night."