I don't want to talk about fathers; or mothers; simply about people; or human beings. My reflection today is about the harm to children, to take revenge on the partner. Parents try in some way; to change the consciousness of that boy or girl, to destroy the relationship, or make it toxic with the other parent. All this leads to mood swings in those children. I have seen and see at school; very large emotional conflicts in children. They become the bargaining chip of their parents' tricks. I am not making this reflection frivolously; because behind all this, there are many who suffer, adults can manage but children are victims; they cry and suffer, they don't understand why dad speaks badly of mom or vice versa. It is assumed that that creature has been the fruit of the love of two people.
How am I going to harm that defenseless being; my son, to take revenge on his mother or father? The ravages will accompany them for life. When I listen to them, I only see children crying out for help, and not being bought a machine, to be a better father or mother. Let's think that we are not hurting the other parent, we are hurting our children; killing them, kidnapping them or manipulating them, will not make us better parents. That so-called Parental Alienation Syndrome is abuse in every way. They tell me that they feel guilty for not going with their parent; even if they want to because of that emotional blackmail that the one they live with does to them. What a terrible childhood; moving them from home, preventing them from talking on the phone because this week you are with mom, forcing them to call the new partners mom or dad. There are many factors for a child to lose their way and be unhappy. Please let's make an act of reflection and think about that suffering, we have no right to leave them as a legacy, a disorder for their whole life. Love is not mistreating, and even less a being that has been gestated by you. I lived an experience as a teacher; that I will never forget. At the exit of the school, a police car was taking a dad away, for something very unfair that happened, the little hands of that child glued to the car window, calling his father, was heartbreaking. Separations must be an agreement between two adults who cannot live together, but without forgetting that those children have to be happy; they have to be above any anger. Let's not take children to be treated, treat yourself so that you continue to be their unconditional support. Don't ask them to get an outstanding grade, when they come from home with a thousand burdens in their little heads, start by cleaning up your mind and don't influence them. Don't ruin their life, you decided to give it to them.
Juani Alemán Hernández.